I went in for the retrieval on August 26th. See previous post about that here. Two of the embryos were biopsied on the 29th. Find that post here.
On the 30th, David and I left for Sioux Falls after work. We were trying to rush there to make it to Outback for supper. We ended up checking into our hotel and just running to McDs for a quick bite because we were both so exhausted.
The next morning we waiting around our hotel for the phone call about our two embryos. About 10 am (or so), we received the devastating news that one of our embryos had TCS and the other results came back "inconclusive". We found out later that the DNA evidence was not very clear. This could mean a few things a) the embryo wasn't growing as it should and would not be viable anyways, b) there were additional chromosomal issues (like down syndrome or something similar) or c) the biopsy was not sufficient and there wasn't enough tissue to test. Anyway you slice it, we were left feeling like we'd be blind sided and the doctors and the genetic counselor were feeling the same way. I had a perfect amount of folicles and eggs to harvest that we were all dumbfounded!
Where do we go from here? David and I had decided when we found out about the two embryos, that we would take some time off if things didn't work out this time around. We are thinking that we'll go through another cycle sometime in 2012. We both agree that we'd be playing with fire if we try to do this again January-May because of the snow! If this wasn't a time sensitive thing, I'd probably sign up to do this 1/1/12! But we cannot take the risk of getting hit with a huge blizzard and not being able to drive to get my eggs harvested!
Emotionally we felt blindsided. We are doing well as can be considered. I'm definitely more clingy than normal! David says I need to find a friend or a hobby. :) Haha! David is frustrated about the financial aspect (no surprise there!).
Financially speaking...we aren't quite sure how we are sitting right now....we were NOT planning on having to do more than one cycle because we do not have fertility issues. We got our first bill which was about $4000 less than anticipated and that was prior to submitting to insurance. We are PRAYING that this is the only charge. I'm sure it's not but I'm trying to remain positive! Please pray that they bundle their charges!!!! I called the business office and I don't think they knew what I meant by "bundled charges". Why am I such an insurance nerd??
I love you guys,and I'm so sorry for the bitter disappointment.It seems to us,financially that we should always have a money back gurantee,and the customer is always right and should be satisfied.What heartbreak. You are wise to take off our tempremental winter,U'll pray,and pray again!We have a God that knows the desires of our heart,and loves us dearly,though His ways are definetely not our ways.......Tammy
ReplyDeleteAnd of course, it doesn't help that their billing person doesn't seem to know enough about what they are doing to be employed there. :-(
ReplyDeleteI was frustrated by the whole situation, not just the finances... that was the only tangible thing that I COULD get upset/frustrated about and I just wanted someone/something to blame other than horribly bad luck. At least we both feel a bit better about it now and time marches on. :-\
Hi Vicki here. For some reason, because I ave created a blog for my Tori-Mac Creations business, its now showing me on here as ToriMac Creations, not my name!
ReplyDeleteI just wated to say how sorry I am that your first try at IVF / PGD did not work. I will continue to follow you through next year and see you hopefully get some better news :)
Please join our map if you havent already (www.tcsaroundtheworld.org) and you might be interested in this blog - someone in the UK embarking on the same journey as you: tcspgd.blogspot.com
All the best
Vicki x